Be First

A mother had not spoken to her son for 3 years because of an argument they had. Even after 3 years the mother was still offended and felt her son should apologize first, not her. By now she had become very sick and was even planning on dying without making peace with her son. But finally, the mother decided to be the first to humble herself and ask her son to forgive her. Immediately her son apologized to her and they became close friends again.

You know, when we choose to stay angry and hold a grudge against someone, we believe the lie that our being right is more important than our being happy and healthy. But it's not! The only way to be at peace in your own life is for you to forgive others. You be wise and strong enough to be the one to apologize, even if you're older. You be the peacemaker and take the first step.

Yet sadly, many of us would rather boil in our anger because we feel the other person was wrong and they owe us an apology. You see, maybe we were right. But life's just too short to wait for everybody in life who has wronged us to finally come to us first and apologize. It just isn't going to happen that way. So the sooner we swallow our pride and be the peacemaker, the sooner we'll be free and happy.

勇于第一个道歉

一位母亲三年没和儿子说话，就因为他们之间的争执。甚至在3年后，母亲依然觉得被冒犯了，儿子应先道歉。这时她已经病的不轻了，甚至都打算不和儿子言归于好了。不过，母亲最终决定自己先放下面子，请儿子原谅她。她的儿子马上向她道歉，他们又成为亲密的朋友。

要知道，我们在选择满腹怨气，对别人怀恨在心时，我们相信自己正确远比自己愉悦、健康更重要这个谎话。事实却不是这样的！让自己人生得享太平的唯一办法就是你要原谅他人。你要足够聪明、强装，成为道歉的那个人，即使你年龄大些。你做和事佬，先采取行动。

不过，可悲的是，我们中的很多人宁可身受怨气的煎熬，因为我们觉得对方错了，他们应该向我们道歉。要知道，或许我们是正确的。但生命这么短，不可能等待我们生命中曾经冤枉过我们的人先来向你道歉。事情不会这个样子的。所以我们越快吞下自尊，成为和事佬，我们就越快获得自由和幸福。